long distance relationship france - indonesia ( english version )

FIRST ! i would  apologize if i wrong type something cause i'm still not enough good for english and also for tenses / grammar :p 

but i hope this article could be something for some people :)

well , Just started a website called facebook and add random, until finally finding facebook each other and fell in love with one another. That's what happened between me and him. My name is Devi and his name jerome, I live in Bogor Indonesia precisely but i’m a student and study in jakarta and he is a worker who lives in France longjumeau. Now 19 years old I went 20 and 22 years old he moved 23 years.

starts from chat on msn facebook and skype thats what we do everyday . At that time I still do not see his face and hear his voice, then I ask for it because I was curious for webcam / video call.  However, he refused for some reason maybe because I was not too familiar with him. Apparently behind the talkative side he is very shy, he was ashamed to show himself. Finally we decided to talk by phone skype (we speak english anyway), his voice is not bass and made me more curious and finally 3 days later he dared to expose himself via webcam. Well, a little bit surprising to see him but there is something about him that made me stuck to him. His smile is sweet, makes me interested in him ;D and we did it everyday after .

Exactly 29 october 2010 at 00:00 pm and .. He threw his sentence, je t'aime for real to me . i was think at those moment  And finally i decided to accept his love . thats our relationship began. Day after day, month after month we were on the internet and social networking that makes us have a link. https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjCSuENAuWeNSh0zMW5nmPLXLnGGclYOvtFZiMI_tBAA_G3kI35UhqaOUG-Yx1vpCmAKgMEca7UjjYtg_QOeB-ZL37TzWcO06t4Dxd32s9Sc___IY1t_NWvxaCuzQjupkGtGlufnSRs00A/s1600/149041_153509918026493_100001024583055_268071_1903669_n.jpg

Finally one day, arround the months of November, he has a plan to go to korea with his cousin ​​and his brother. But when he talked about the trip to Korea, I propose to meet me in Indonesia more better, it was really serious about our plans on the run day after day. January 2011 he got a passport and arround in march he bought a ticket to meet me. July, the month is what we are waiting for the first meeting.

8 months we waited for the meeting, not a very easy  way .. With a longdistance, asia and europe, we need to fight hard and huge patience. Arguments for the sake of argument that occurs, misunderstanding each other, as well as the jealousy of each other is tested. But honestly, long distance seem impossible but nothing impossible!

And july was coming, we are so excited ~ July 2, he landed in Jakarta by emirates plane on 3.45pm  ..
I was along with my sister and my mother waited for him out of the gate but still he didnt. 

The mind was erratic because his handphone was doesnt work , well .. wait again , and for sure the result  of patience is always NICE .. 3 hours I waited and finally he came out of the gate with a black suitcase and a black jacket. I was running to him, but since the first meeting of course we wont be free , we was so ashamed. Then we were still shy and not talkative. His face looked so tired because he had not slept during his trip to Indonesia. So poor L  Finally we all returned to his dorm and his dorm about only a few meters from my house. When we arrived, we prepare for his clothes to wardrobe and he was going for take a shower and after finish he wanted directly to go to my house without a break. This western really impatient, I thought. Hahahahaha, but the at sametime happiness is always there in me. A man who had never met me before and then daring to go alone to meet her lover without the slightest fear.

love is stronger between us with this first meeting. He lived until 29 July 2011 with his visa on arrival in Indonesia. While in Indonesia, we take a walk to some places where foreign visited often time , Monas (monument national) , botanical garden (Bogor botanical garden), Ancol beach and several other places.
I am very happy with its presence in the month of July, and also didnt forget for introduction of himself to my parents and several other families. Then it implies that our relationship more  to be close .. Day after day together and pass over in laughter, sadness, emotion .. And finally the 29th of July 2011 came where he should go back to france to see his family again. sadness, loss and loneliness for sure what we felt  because we was just together but must be separated again. But we promised to meet again and soon. I close my July with him with a last hug with him.
That's how our journey with the first meeting that occurred in Indonesia.

When he was arrived in France, we went back into our lives via the internet. But we insisted that we would meet again and we made plans that we will meet again in the month of December.
If we try so hard and wanted it so much by faith and works, nothing is useless. Finally , the ticket was bought by him with a lot of hard works and effort from him for our meeting . it was so amazing moment and so unbelievable . but it wasnt stop at those time , this is the hard part, the visa has not been made and there has been no preparation and at the same time I must have a paper that embassy ask for some permission to live there from the city hall .

But we wont give up , we will work hard for make everything done . start from all document from me and him that we was prepared . and after , All the preparations done immediately. Frebut french ambassy need a real paper of city hall , they dont accept for the copy one . than he was sent the paper by package and LUCKY it was arrived after one week . Heart was very anxious at that time. But again, someone really hard work will give good results. After 2 weeks , i got some called without number while i slept . and it was french ambassy called me == “ some guy talk me and ask me through a short interview by mr. Rauch from the French embassy with the English language and he did also interview with my boyfriend by phone . and after all he told to my boyfriend that visa was valid . 2 days after , i got a message from TLS contack that invite me to come for take all the document . and i was so scream , GOTCHA !!! about 3 pm I took the document and yeaa ... visa Schengen was printed on my pasport for 1 month.

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A week afrer , packing began. Because the December was a winter, of course, i prepared and will brought warm clothes. And it will be 3 days later , that i will take my flight to paris . We were waiting for those day and we were so happy, and day after day passed until 17 December 2011 . finally this day come , i will come soon ~~
but honestly , i was so scared cause it was my first time i took my plane alone and so far ,  asia – europe . but for sure behind of it , i felt very happy and very impatient. TARAM ! aboarding time was come , and i must be there . so some goodbye between me and some of my family also happened ~ than after i walked to aboarding place . Jakarta - Abudhabi - Paris that's what the route for my plane .  18 hours I will be on a plane with a transit time as well to reach the city of Paris fashion.
Fortunately for my plane  is not too boring, their has a good service , and there was some delicious food and drinks and various snacks that they will give. And also some of e-box to watch tv and listen to music infront of me , even though the economy class but the class seemed like queen for a very satisfactory service.

6:50 am the plane finally landed in Charlles De Gaulle, yeahh i'm so impatient to see my lover in front of the gate waiting for me. I walk up to the booth out of places to check passports and also for took my suitcase . After i got my suitcase, I rushed out to find the exit gate. BOOM! When i found it and walked out , the first face I saw that he was, how happy I am then and there and with the same feeling a little embarrassed. After a few minutes, I knew that his mother, his brother and his sister family came to meet me. Nervous as I know and felt when i came close to them, they talked French and I dont understand anything, what they say.  but still i could understand a little bit by non verbal speaking .

and also his niece came to find me , his niece named Lea (7 yo) and Noemi (4 yo) immediately grabbed my hand and led me into the car to go home's my lover. they are so cute , i really love them 

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While in the car I was just silent and listen them talk before I do not forget text a message to my family that I have arrived in Paris , via his mobile phone. when in home we were taking a break while talking,and shortly thereafter came out around the area where he lives. A word that I know about the French, AMAZING!

23 days I will stay there for any round-trip ticket was purchased at the same time. During my days in France is very pleasant, very friendly with his family and loved me so well and also with him that makes me happy. Eiffel tower, ice skatting, shopping mall, christmas event, new year event, and many more things that I passed it for 23 days. I did a lot of activity there.

Not only with his family, but I also met his best friend since many years ago. and as long as I am in France I met some other friends. happy to be able to met with the people around him and makes me feel closer to him. Will know some things I did not know while in Indonesia. it was happy time to be there, I wanted to live there, but I know, I definitely have to go back because the study is not finished and my family that awaits me at home.

And 9 january 2012 arrives, it's time I should go back and say goodbye. It's hard to leave him because I was very close with him and also family feel the same. But we are no longer a choice, just be patient to wait for the next trip again.

Cry in the last day came when the heart is totally sad and it should release it. But that's what should happen, last hug and sweet kiss that I gave last time at the airport. No tears at the time, but the tears spilled while I was on the plane and when the pilot announced "take off".

Not only sad, there was feel annoyed because my transit time to wait for the next flight which is 18 hours! very boring being in airports, and lucky I found the wifi in the food court abudhabi. if not, I will stand up to play pc that were there for so many hours.

There was a meeting of course there must be separation, but separation in january it is not the end of everything. For us it's only the delayed meeting to be together forever.

and when im arrived in indonesia , my mom was came to airport for accompany me back home. we also live a normal life again as the previous days. Webcam and chat. thats what will we do until the next trip come . We've been together 1 year 3 months now, and we really love each other. I hope the time goes fast, and time stay together forever (marriage) will be come near .

Long distance relationship is not an easy one is not even something that looks simple.  it is very complicated . Loneliness, need each other, quarrel, we can not pass over in a day or a matter of a few hours like a normal couple, but we must pass over in the words of a keyboard or keypad. even far , but  We are proud of our relationship, until this day we can stand strong for our future together.

Anyway, soon valentine day ~ but we are not together .. Sad really, but it does not matter ~: D keep strong! We will celebrate with cam val'day (з '. ⌣'`ε)

For all of you who read this article, I beg your prayers and support for us to stay together and long lasting \ (≧ ∇ ≦) / ♥ and this story  , when the next trip come , I will continue this story until even our wedding party coming , Amiiiiinnnnnnnnn ~ hhihihihihi. Thanks for your attention,

GBU all , sayonara Ψ (`▽ ') σ

story of long distance relationship paris - indonesia

Hanya berawal dari situs internet yang dinamakan facebook dan add random , hingga akhirnya menemukan fb satu sama lain dan jatuh hati satu sama lain . Itu lah yang terjadi antara aku dan dirinya . Nama saya Devi dan nama dia jerome , saya tinggal di indonesia tepatnya di daerah bogor namun sedang kuliah di jakarta dan dia seorang pekerja yang tinggal di perancis tepatnya di longjumeau . Kini umur saya 19 tahun beranjak 20 dan dia 22 tahun beranjak 23 tahun .

Awal pendekatan dimulai dari sebuah chatting di facebook hingga beranjak msn dan skype . Saat itu saya masih belum melihat wajahnya serta mendengar suaranya , lalu karena saya penasaran saya mengajaknya webcam alias video call . Namun , dia menolak entah kenapa karena saat itu saya belum terlalu mengenal dirinya . Rupanya di balik sifatnya yang cerewet dia sangat pemalu , dia merasa malu untuk memperlihatkan dirinya . Akhirnya kami memutuskan untuk berbicara by phone skype (anyway we speak english) , suaranya yang tidak terlalu bas dan soft membuat saya semakin penasaran dan akhirnya 3 hari kemudian dia berani menunjukan dirinya via webcam . Well , agak sedikit mengejutkan melihat dirinya namun ada sesuatu dari dirinya yang membuat saya tertuju padanya . Senyumnya yang manis , membuat saya tertarik padanya .

Tepatnya 29 october 2010 dan pukul 00:00 wib .. Dia melontarkan kalimatnya , je t'aime for real kepada saya .. 

Dan saya pun menerima cintanya saat itu demikianlah hubungan kami di mulai . Hari demi hari , bulan demi bulan kami lewati dengan modal internet dan social networking yang membuat kami mempunyai link .

Akhirnya suatu hari kira - kira di bulan november , ia mempunyai suatu plan untuk ke korea bersama sepupu dan kakaknya . Namun di saat dia memperbincangkan tentang trip ke korea , saya mengusulkan untuk bertemu saya di indonesia lebih baik , ternyata benar serius rencana kami di jalankan hari demi hari . Januari 2011 dia mendapatkan pasport dan di bulan febuari dia membeli tiket untuk bertemu saya . Juli , bulan itu lah yang kami tunggu - tunggu untuk pertemuan pertama kali . 8 bulan kami menunggu untuk bertemu , bukanlah hal yang sangat mudah .. Dengan jarak yang sangat jauh , asia dan eropa , butuh perjuangan keras dan kesabaran yang sangat besar . Pertengkaran demi pertengkaran yang terjadi , kesalah pahaman satu sama lain , begitu juga kecemburuan satu sama lainnya sangat di uji . Tapi jujur , long distance seem impossible but nothing impossible !!!

And Juli coming , we are so excited ~ 2 juli tepatnya dia mendarat di jakarta pukul 3.45 dengan pesawat emiratenya ..

Saya beserta kakak perempuan saya dan mama saya menunggu dia keluar dari gate namun tak kunjung keluar . Pikiran pun tak karuan karena handphonenya mati , namun hasil kesabaran selalu berbuah manis .. 3 jam saya menunggu dan akhirnya dia pun keluar dari gate dengan koper warna hitam dan jaketnya yang berwarna hitam . Berlari lah saya kepadanya , namun karena pertemuan pertama tentu saja masi malu karena belum terbiasa . Lalu kami pun masih sungkan dan belum banyak bicara . Wajah dia pun tampak lelah karena dia tidak tidur selama trip nya menuju indonesia. Akhirnya pulanglah kami semua menuju tempat penginapan dia kira-kira hanya beberapa meter dari rumah saya .

Sesampainya dia di penginapan , dia bergegas mandi dan langsung ingin menuju rumah saya tanpa istirahat . Sungguh tak sabaran bule satu ini , pikir saya . Hahahahaha , namun rasa bahagia yang tak terbayangkan selalu ada di diri saya . Seorang pria yang tidak pernah bertemu sebelumnya lalu nekat pergi sendiri menemui kekasihnya tanpa rasa takut sedikitpun .

Cinta pun semakin kuat antaara kami dengan pertemuan pertama ini . Ia tinggal sampai 29 juli 2011 dengan visa on arrivalnya di indonesia.  Selama di indonesia, kami berjalan-jalan ke beberapa tempat , monas tentunya tempat wisatawan asing , botanical garden (kebun raya bogor) , ancol dan beberapa tempat lainnya.

Saya sangat bahagia dengan kehadirannya di bulan juli , tak lupa pun perkenalan diri dia dengan orang tua saya dan beberapa keluarga lainnya . Maka secara tidak langsung hubungan kami pun bisa dikatakan dekat .. Hari demi hari bersama dan di lewati dengan tawa , sedih , haru .. 

Dan tibalah akhirnya 29 juli 2011 dimana dia harus kembali ke france menemui keluarganya lagi .

Sedih , kehilangan dan kesepian tentunya karena sudah terbiasa bersama namun harus berpisah lagi . Namun kami berjanji akan bertemu lagi dan segera . Pelukan terakhir pun menutup juli saya dengan dirinya .

Begitulah perjalanan kami dengan pertemuan pertama yang terjadi di indonesia .

Setibanya dia di perancis , kami pun kembali ke kehidupan kami melalui internet . Namun kami berpegang teguh bahwa kami akan bertemu lagi dan kami membuat rencana lagi bahwa kami akan bertemu di bulan desember .

Ternyata sesulit apapun keadaan jika di kuatkan oleh iman dan usaha , tidak ada yang percuma . terbelilah tiket pulang pergi untuk ke perancis melalui usaha kerja keras darinya di bulan oktober . Lalu disinilah bagian yang sulit , visa belum terbuat dan belum ada persiapan apapun dan saat yang bersamaan saya harus memiliki suatu kertas yang menyatakan tentang izin saya tinggal disana dari wali kotanya .

Segala persiapan dilakukan segera , sampai meminta pertolongan saudara untuk membuat visa . Dan kebetulan kedutaan perancis ingin dokumen yang nyata dari surat walikota perancis , dikirimlah paket dokumen kilat yang memakan waktu 1 minggu . Hati sangat cemas saat itu . Namun sekali lagi , kerja keras benar-benar membuahkan hasil yang baik , melalui interview singkat yang di lakukan oleh mr . Rauch dari kedutaan perancis dengan bahasa inggris dan interview singkat dengan kekasih saya juga visa saya di terima dan diberikan 1 minggu sebelum kepergian . YES !! Kata pertama yang saya ucapkan saat pertama kali mendapatkan sms untuk mengambil berkas dan dokumen di TLS contack dan saat hari itu juga kira-kira pukul 3 sore saya ambil dokumen dan dapatlah di tangan visa schengen selama 1 bulan .

Beberapa hari setelahnya , packing pun dimulai . Karena desember musim dingin , tentunya baju yang hangat dibawa . Kami pun menunggu hari keberangkatan dengan senang hati , dan hari demi hari terlewati hingga akhirnya 17 desember 2011 pun tiba dimana saya akan melakukan perjalanan seorang diri ke perancis !!

Jujur rasa takut tentu ada , namun di balik rasa takut perasaan yang sangat bahagia dan tidak sabar sangat mensupport saya . Jakarta - Abudhabi - Paris rute itulah yang di tuju dan selama 18 jam saya akan berada di pesawat dengan waktu transit juga untuk mencapai paris sang kota fashion .

Beruntunglah pesawat yang saya naiki tidak terlalu membosankan , disediakannya lah beberapa makanan yang cukup lezat dan minuman serta aneka snack . Begitu juga disediakannya e-box untuk menonton tv dan mendengarkan musik , walaupun ekonomi class tapi serasa queen class karena pelayanan yang sangat memuaskan .

6.50 am pesawat akhirnya mendarat di Charlles De Gaule , yeahh dalam hati pun semakin tidak sabar untuk melihat sang kekasih di depan gate menunggu saya . Berjalanlah saya keluar sampai menuju loket tempat pengecekan passport dan sebagainya begitu juga tempat pengambilan koper . Sehabis koper saya dapatkan , saya pun bergegas keluar untuk mencari pintu keluar . BOOM !! Saat keluar wajah pertama yang saya lihat itu dia , betapa bahagianya saya saat itu juga dan disertai rasa sedikit malu yang bersamaan . Selang beberapa menit , saya pun tahu bahwa mamanya , kakak laki-lakinya serta kakak perempuan keluarganya datang menjemput saya . Gugup yang saya tahu dan rasakan saat pertemuan pertama dengan mereka dan bahasa perancis yang tidak saya kuasai sama sekali saat itu membuat saya tidak mengerti apa-apa , apa yang dikatakan mereka . 

Namun saat bersamaan , keponakannya yang bernama Lea (7 tahun) dan Noemi (4 tahun) langsung meraih tangan saya dan mengantarkan saya ke mobil untuk menuju rumah kekasih saya .

Selama di mobil pun saya hanya terdiam dan mendengarkan mereka berbicara tidak lupa sebelumnya saya mengabarkan keluarga saya bahwa saya telah sampai di paris melalui handphone dia . Tiba sampai di rumah kami pun beristirahat sejenak sambil mengobrol-ngobrol , dan tidak lama kemudian keluar mengelilingi daerah tempat tinggalnya . 1 kata yang saya ketahui tentang perancis , AMAZING !!

23 hari lamanya saya akan tinggal disana karena tiket pulang pergi pun sudah di beli saat yang bersamaan .  Hari-hari saya selama di perancis sangatlah menyenangkan , bersama keluarganya yang sangat friendly dan menyayangi saya begitu juga dengan dirinya yang membuat saya bahagia . Eiffel tower , ice skatting , shopping mall , christmas event , new year event , dan masih banyak lagi hal yang saya lewati selama 23 hari itu . 
banyak kegiatan yang saya lakukan disana . 
Tidak hanya bersama keluarganya , tetapi saya bertemu juga dengan sahabat karib dia sejak beberapa tahun yang lalu . dan selama saya di perancis saya bertemu dengan beberapa sahabatnya yang lain . bahagia rasanya bisa bertemu dengan orang-orang yang disekelilingnya dan membuat saya merasa lebih dekat dengan dirinya . Tahu akan beberapa hal yang tidak saya ketahui selama di Indonesia . Bahagia saat itu , Ingin rasanya saya tinggal disana namun saya tahu , saya pasti harus kembali karena study yang belum selesai dan keluarga saya yang   menanti saya dirumah .

Dan 9 january 2012 pun tiba , saatnya saya harus kembali dan mengucapkan salam perpisahan . Berat rasanya untuk meninggalkan dirinya karena saya sudah sangat merasa dekat dan keluarganya pun sama . Namun kami tidak ada pilihan lagi , hanya harus bersabar untuk menanti trip selanjutnya lagi .

Tangis tentunya datang saat hari terakhir dan ya hati yang sedih harus melepaskannya . Namun itulah yang harus terjadi , pelukan terakhir serta sweet kiss yang saya berikan terakhir saat di airport . Tidak ada air mata saat itu , namun air mata tumpah saat saya berada di pesawat dan saat pilot mengumumkan "take off" . Tidak hanya sedih , rasa kesal pun ada karena waktu transit saya untuk menunggu pesawat yang selanjutnya yaitu 18 jam !! sangat membosankan berada di airport , dan beruntungnya saya menemukan wifi di food court abudhabi . jika tidak , saya akan berdiri memainkan Pc yang berada disana berjam-jam .
 

Ada pertemuan tentu saja pasti ada perpisahan , namun perpisahan dia di january bukanlah akhir dari segalanya . Bagi kami itu hanya pertemuan yang tertunda untuk bersama selamanya . Setelah kepulangan saya , kami pun hidup secara normal lagi layaknya hari-hari sebelumnya . Webcam dan chatting .

Dan kami akan mempersiapkan trip kami yang selanjutnya ..

Kami sudah bersama 1 tahun 3 bulan sekarang , dan kami sangat mencintai satu sama lainnya . Saya berharap waktu berjalan cepat , dan waktu kami pun untuk tinggal bersama selamanya tiba (marriage) .

Long distance relationship bukan suatu yang mudah bahkan bukan sesuatu yang terlihat simple . Ternyata lika liku dibaliknya sangatlah rumit . Rasa kesepian , butuh satu sama lain , pertengkaran , kami tidak bisa lewati dengan 1 hari atau hitungan beberapa jam tiba layaknya pasangan normal , namun harus kami lewati dengan kata-kata dari keyboard atau keypad . Kami bangga dengan hubungan kami hingga saat ini kami bisa berdiri tegar untuk memperoleh masa depan kami berdua .

Anyway , bentar lagi valentine day ~ tapi kami sendiri - sendiri .. Sedih juga sih , but it doesn't matter ~ :D keep strong !! We will celebrate val'day with cam (з´.⌣`ε) 

Bagi kalian yang baca artikel ini , saya mohon doanya serta dukungannya untuk kami untuk selalu bersama dan long lasting \(≧∇≦)/ ♥  Sekian dulu yah storynya , saat trip selanjutnya saya akan melanjutkan story inii lagi bahkan sampai wedding party kami tiba . Amiiiiinnnnnnnnn ~ hhihihihihi . Thanks for your attention , sayonara Ψ(`▽´)σ